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TONIGHT’S TOPICS:
1. Latest Trend in Hip Hop: Wearing Women’s Clothes
2. 10 Ways To Cope With Anxiety
“Bridalplasty”
A show that combines reality television, weddings, and extreme plastic surgery makeovers.
Dame Theory wishes we were kidding around.
“Each week, a woman will go for broke in a wedding-related competition. The winner will receive the plastic surgery that they long for to make their day complete. ”
The show preimiered on E! yesterday. Read more at “The bride wore bandages: ‘Bridalplasty’ to combine extreme plastic surgery with wedding day stress”
What’s your birth order?
Were you a first born? Middle child? Baby? Or only child? Find out what your birth order says about you!
“If you’ve read any pop psychology, you’ve probably already come across the term “birth order factor.” It refers to a child’s place in the family. Certain traits seem to go hand in hand with birth order. The theory is that birth order affects not only how your child sees herself, but also how you parent your child.”
Below is a segment of text from health.howstuffworks.com
“The firstborn child is the pioneer in the family and, unless a remarriage into a family with other children occurs, she always enjoys the position of the oldest. Firstborn children are often very dependable, responsible, loyal, and protective. They often assume a little-parent role in the family. Among adults, a high percentage of firstborns can be found in such demanding professions as medicine and politics. Firstborns often say their parents place too much responsibility on them in the family, and parental expectations for them are too high.
Since the firstborn child is an only child, at least for a while, she is the one child in the family who will ever know what it’s like not to have to share her parents’ attention with a sibling. For this reason, it’s especially difficult for some firstborns to deal with the birth of the second child. The second child may always be seen as a threat by a firstborn, since if it were not for him, the firstborn would still have exclusive claim to parental attention and energy. It’s not unusual for a firstborn child to plot ways to get rid of the second child. This may involve backbiting or actual physical attacks against the second child or attention-getting behaviors such as whining and crying.
The second child often experiences a much different world than his older brother or sister does. Second children often take the role of rebel, clown, entertainer, artist, troublemaker, peacemaker, or negotiator in families.
But second children often feel they don’t get enough attention from their parents and, unlike firstborns, their parents don’t expect much from them. They complain they are compared with their older siblings and often express the wish that they would just be appreciated for who they are. They may resent being bossed around by their older siblings.
Some middle children express relief about being in the middle. Their parents are accustomed to parenting by the time they arrive, so some of the pressure is off. But middle children often feel unappreciated by and uninvolved with the rest of the family. They usually end up with all the hand- me-downs from the older child, which doesn’t help them feel very special either (unless they happen to be the first sister or brother born into the family, a situation that changes the family dynamics a great deal). Middle children often see themselves as dependable, self-reliant, diplomatic, and easygoing. Because they do tend to be very independent, they often end up in very independent sorts of jobs. As children, they often wish their parents would get more excited about their achievements, spend more time alone with them, and, for heaven’s sake, buy them some thing new once in a while.
The baby, or youngest child in a family, usually has special status. The parents’ expectations of the youngest child may be lower, and this child doesn’t have to do much to get all her needs met. By the time the baby of the family is born, the parents may have attained a healthy earning power, so the family’s financial situation may be considerably easier than it was when the first child was born. The baby may be showered with material possessions and special attention. She knows she has a special place in the family and learns to charm and manipulate other family members to get what she wants. Nonetheless these youngest children don’t like being called the baby; they want to be taken seriously just like other children. They often see themselves playing the role of the little one, the cute one, the spoiled one, or the one with the temper. Some babies don’t ever really grow up or shed the role they played as a child often because their parents don’t ever really allow them to grow up, wanting them to forever remain their cute, precious, final child.
Only Children
There are lots of reasons for having only one child-sometimes the parents plan it that way; sometimes stillbirths, miscarriages, deaths, medical problems, or other factors prevent parents from having other children. These factors affect how an only child views himself and how his parents view him.
Most only children relish their position, even if they occasionally wish they had the companionship of brothers and sisters. Unfortunately, as parents age, an only child often becomes the sole caretaker with no siblings to help out.
Only children may feel lonely for lack of peer interaction. Due to their exposure within the home to adults only, they might have difficulty being around other kids even when the opportunities for such interaction exist, or they may simply prefer to be around adults. They often feel incredible pressure from their parents, since they may be viewed as the first, last, and only hope for the future of the family. While parents of larger families may hope to fulfill their own dreams through several children, all such wishes may be focused on an only child.”
Airport security has been tightening across our country. How much do we really know about it? Here are some interesting articles concerning the controversy behinf airport TSAs:
Shooting video at a TSA checkpoint? Here’s what you should know
Burlesque
Without question, however, burlesque’s principal legacy as a cultural form was its establishment of patterns of gender representation that forever changed the role of the woman on the American stage and later influenced her role on the screen… The very sight of a female body not covered by the accepted costume of bourgeois respectability forcefully if playfully called attention to the entire question of the “place” of woman in American society.
- Robert G. Allen, Horrible Prettiness: Burlesque and American Culture (Univ. of North Carolina Press, Chapel Hill, 1991), pp. 258-259.
Burlesque is a rich and mis-understood art-form that is breaking out once more into fashion and popular culture.
While some think it’s a trashy strip-tease, in reality it is a mixture of dance, wit, comedy, and yes, some adult entertainment. 
For more information on the history of the art-form, check out History of Burlesque Parts 1 and 2
TOPIXXX FOR TONIGHT 11/29/10
1. BURLESQUE HISTORY LESSON
2. IMPORTANCE OF BIRTH ORDER
3. TSA CHECKPOINTS/AIRPORT SECURITY
4. BRIDALPLASTY
Some of us are modern daters while others are more traditional. Does who pays depend on gender, who asked who, or is it just personal preference. Check out this hercampus article to read about the opinions of college students from across the country, Picking Up the Tab: What Guys (& Girls) Really Think About Who Should Pay for the Date
Hunter gatherer brains make men and women see things differently
Men and women see things differently because of ancient hunter-gatherer programming in their brains, research suggests.
Scientists carried out experiments that showed men are better at judging faraway targets, while women are good at short-distance focusing.
They believe the findings reflect the way men and women’s brains evolved for different hunter-gatherer roles many thousands of years ago.
Hunters, who were traditionally men, needed an ability to observe from afar.
Women, on the other hand, had to be adept at searching the area immediately within reach for fruits, nuts, berries and edible roots
Childhood obesity is increasing at a staggering rate. Are those tempting toys to blame?San Francisco bans Happy Meals with toys
